Agreed budget is healthy for a relationship

  • Dave Ramsey

    Dave Ramsey

Dear Dave,

We are debt-free except for our home, and we have six months of expenses set aside in our emergency fund. Every time we do our monthly budget, we set aside a small amount of personal spending money for us both. Do you see anything wrong with this?

ó DeAnna

Dear DeAnna,

Thereís absolutely nothing wrong with having a little fun money calculated into your monthly budget when youíre in good financial shape. The problems start when couples donít agree on these kinds of things ó or worse ó when they start hiding stuff and lying to each other about where the moneyís going.

People either grow together or they grow apart when they get married. When you start hiding things from your spouse youíre essentially keeping separate lives. Thatís a bad sign in any marriage, and in many cases, this kind of thing leads to divorce.

Having an agreed-upon budget isnít just telling your money what to do. Itís also an important part of a healthy sharing and communication process between husband and wife!

ó Dave

Dear Dave,

I have a small business, and I love what I do. Unfortunately, things havenít been going well the last several months. On top of that, Iíve committed a lot of money to advertising in the coming year. Recently, I got a great job offer from a company that would pay me twice what Iím making now. What do you think I should do?

ó Hugh

Dear Hugh,

If it were me, Iíd want to keep my options open. Closing your business would mean giving up all your customers. Iím not sure thatís a good idea when the offer has just been made, and you know so little about the actual job.

If you think this new job is something you might like, why not accept the offer and see if you can continue your other work on the weekends? That would help cover some, if not all, of your advertising commitment. Plus, it would keep some money rolling in if the new job doesnít work out.

If you find you like this new job, then youíve got a great income and something you like doing on weekends that pays. If you keep your business open ó even on a small scale ó thereís always a chance it will begin to grow again. Who knows? It might give you the opportunity to jump back into it full-time somewhere down the road!

ó Dave

ē Dave Ramsey is CEO of Ramsey Solutions. He has authored seven bestselling books, including The Total Money Makeover. The Dave Ramsey Show is heard by more than 14 million listeners each week on 600 radio stations and multiple digital platforms. Follow Dave on the web at and on Twitter at @DaveRamsey

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Published Oct 13, 2018 at 8:00 am (Updated Oct 12, 2018 at 4:26 pm)

Agreed budget is healthy for a relationship

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